Those are the two words that have got me through so much these past 8 years, and the person who first uttered them will still to this day throw them back at me if I falter regarding anything I am stuttering, stumbling or procrastinating over (normally my drinks order but still). She is and was a huge inspiration when I first met her, and possibly has no clue what an impact that ‘gentle’ coaching had at the time. Those two words stood me in good stead when I received promotion after promotion in my corporate job, and they still echo in my thoughts whenever I need to get on and do something great. I even use them myself when talking to the next generation of amazing talent I have the privilege of working with.
Amazing the power two words has.
Another two words, that I have also loved throwing around is fuck off/it – often said in my head, more often said out loud in a cathartic way. With the extra spittle to really let go of whatever it is that is frustrating/angering/winding me up that day.
It is also one to watch around the children, as when my 3 year old calmly repeated it back to me in the middle of a busy shopping centre, I wasn’t owning that at all. In fact the first thing I was said to her was’ who taught you that?’… well you can guess what the response was. Torn between screaming ‘fuck off’ at the eavesdroppers that suddenly appeared openly displaying disapproval, laughing at her tenacity or just to cut and run, I was proper stumped. I went with a mixture of options 2 and 3 and am not hoping it doesn’t resurface until she is 12 or something. To be honest I often joked with my NCT group that my children would be the first to drop the F bomb – and well there you have it be careful what you wish for!
Another two words that resonates with me is Be Real/You. Something that so many of us have lost sight of. Whether that’s hiding behind well lit, selfies; behind booze or drugs, the latest HD brows, faddy diet, latest gadget / fancy car… I see so many people blending into one. It makes me sad to see so many beautiful souls comply with what society demands, and lose their individuality.
Sure we are better than we where a few years ago, but now is the time to really show up, to speak our truth, being real – warts and all – is what truly inspires us.
Me… I’m choosing to Own it, Fuck it and Be Real – Purple and all.